I put this under theology cause I really don't know where else to put it. I'm reading Genesis, and I just got to chapter 16.
Now Sarai, Abram's wife, had borne him no children. She had a female Egyptian servant whose name was Hagar. And Sarai said to Abram, “Behold now, the Lord has prevented me from bearing children. Go in to my servant; it may be that I shall obtain children by her.” And Abram listened to the voice of Sarai. So, after Abram had lived ten years in the land of Canaan, Sarai, Abram's wife, took Hagar the Egyptian, her servant, and gave her to Abram her husband as a wife. And he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, she looked with contempt on her mistress. And Sarai said to Abram, “May the wrong done to me be on you! I gave my servant to your embrace, and when she saw that she had conceived, she looked on me with contempt. May the Lord judge between you and me!”
This passage just reminds me tht while Abraham was a great man of God, his understanding of women was as bad as that of most of us men. I mean, who, looking at this from a distance, wouldn't be able to tell that this was a REALLY bad idea? But, right there in the moment, Abraham was apparently unable to see the fatal flaw in this plan.
I don't know, maybe he made the mistake that we men often make: that just because something was the woman's idea, that will somehow absolve us of blame if everything goes wrong.
Regardless, this was a really stupid decision representing a total and complete misunderstanding of women on Abraham's part. And for some reason, the fact that one of the greatest men who ever lived didn't understand women any better than I do provides some sort of comfort.